Frustrations, Sexual Assault and Bad First Impressions of Vietscam


Vietnam and I didn’t get off to the best of starts. I was all ready to be like a proper grownup and go there on holiday with my girlfriend – until her Visa was rejected at last minute for only one reason; her nationality. It seems Vietnam isn’t too keen on Tunisian’s coming for a visit, and with my Cambodian Visa already expired seven days before – I had to get out of the country.

A little reminder to all of us who have ‘good’ passports – how lucky we are.

That being said, I was looking forward to getting a new country under my belt, so me and ‘The Nam’ put our differences aside and I decided to see what she had up her sleeve for me. After settling in Ho Chi Minh City before deciding where to go next, things started going in a positive direction.

I was impressed with the cuisine of Vietnam. They seem to have a staple diet of fresh vegetables (crunchy spinach in buttered garlic being my favourite), lean meat and a slightly sour taste to its dishes. I didn’t have many bad meals in Vietnam – whereas it’s a daily battle to make my stomach happy in Cambodia.

I lead a bit of a double life lately. Sometimes I’m a backpacker – jumping from one hostel to another and I’m not bothered about where I sleep. Other times I base myself in a new city so I can crack on with some work and enjoy some luxurious comforts and I couldn’t help but feel that Ho Chi Minh city had a pretty good ‘base’ vibe about it.

It’s a lot more modern than Phnom Penh and ticks all the boxes that I need to hang out for a month or so.

I should have stayed in Ho Chi Minh City.

Buy 1 shoe, get one shoe FREE

Because I stumbled upon an evil force that I was not prepared for; Vietnamese taxi drivers.

Pretty much every taxi driver tried to get more money out of me when the taxi metre had already named a price. This was the regular pattern and I tried not to use taxis, but my hands were tied when I was in a rush.

Particularly one evening, when I was going to the gym. The taxi driver wouldn’t let up about taking me to a “closer” gym and let’s just say he drained me for every penny he could get. And I’m 100% sure he took (grabbed) the wrong note from my wallet (without asking) when I was paying up.

This was after constantly telling the little slime-ball that I did want to go to the gym and I did not want to “boom boom” with a Vietnamese lady. I don’t even want to think about how much this guy scammed me out of – it makes me sick to even consider the number.

I was losing the plot and getting angrier and angrier after every encounter.

Mad as HELL

The next day I was going to the gym (the one I actually wanted to go to) in a taxi. This driver didn’t seem as rude, pushy, or as aggressive as the other drivers and I wrongly thought I was going to enjoy a peaceful ride.

As I fumbled around in my pockets to pay him the metre price he joked about me being strong and made bicep flex moves. I laughed and nodded and he felt my arms. He felt my shoulders too – I was cool with that. And then he felt…a different muscle. MY LOVE MUSCLE!

Memories of that ‘Friends’ episode when Joey gets felt up by the tailor spring to mind. I was in a complete state of shock and denial and told myself surely a taxi driver has not just groped my knob and that maybe I’m hallucinating because of lack of sleep. Or maybe it was ‘just a Vietnam thing?’


This time he certainly, for the second time – absolutely groped my cock. And I’m not talking about a cheeky little feel – I’m talking about a full-on; ‘we are horny teenagers and my Momma and Poppa have popped out for groceries, get ‘Greenday’ on the stereo – take me I’m all yours,’ kind of grope.

I lost control. I grabbed him by the throat and threw him against the drivers door, his head smacking off the window with the impact. I have no idea what he said in Vietnamese and he probably thought that I was possessed by Lucifer, because I was going as you would say in England “ape shit!”

I told him to unlock the door and stuffed the money in his mouth.

Ten minutes into my gym session; adrenaline calms down and panic sets in and I begin to worry. I’m in a foreign country and I have just attacked a taxi driver – and he could tell the police where I am. Of course, that’s not the true story, but I figured the police would take his side over mine.

I left the gym immediately and went for a big wander – ending up back at my hostel an hour and a half later. I’ve had a laugh about the dick-grabbing taxi driver since, as have other people – but would it be so funny if I was a girl? I think not.

I have a really bad first impression of Vietnam and I’m in no rush to go back. In Thailand and Cambodia they try to get more money from you – but it’s done more in a cheeky and jovial way, with an impish grin on their faces.

In Vietnam they are aggressive and they lock the doors to intimidate you. They’re not very friendly and the people in general just see you as one big walking wallet when they look at you. Be careful when in Hanoi, it saddens me to write this as I hate fear mongering and this is the first time in a whole year that I didn’t feel particularly safe when travelling.

I’m just being honest about my encounter – travel isn’t always sunshine, rainbows and an orgy of Mark Twain quotes.

My Theory On Why Vietnamese Taxi Drivers are Scammers

Politically speaking, I’m neither extreme left, nor right. I think you could argue that immigrants who travel overseas to better their lives and of those who they love are modern-day heroes and I’m pretty sure that I’d do the same in their shoes. (Who am I kidding? I am an immigrant!) But when it comes down to enterprise – I guess I embrace the good parts of capitalism. (But I’m not suggesting that it is also without its evils, either).

There is a common belief from the extreme political left that Capitalism is some sort of seedy pyramid scheme and that no good can come from it for anyone else other than the already rich elite. I believe any concept can be abused when taking to an extreme – and I think that’s the case with capitalism.

In the privileged world, it enables you to become a self made man/woman from even the lowest of starting points in life and I am living proof of that. But I’m not naive enough to think that it would be the same deal if I was born in Zimbabwe under an oppressive Mugabe regime.

It’s a flawed and imperfect system, but I see many benefits over its opposite. I’m a perfect example of the world ‘being my oyster,’ and I’m not going to waste this opportunity.

When you indoctrinate the principles of Communism/Marxism into a society – you take away the strong human desire to evolve and in turn, that makes people pull all sorts of nasty tricks like they do in the taxis of Vietnam just to get a little ahead. I’ve seen how petrified they are of the police over there, when they come to close down desperate businesses for the curfew with their big sticks and heavy-handed tactics. They mentally beat the people down and they put limits on them and a ceiling on an individual’s possibilities.

It’s against the core of the human spirit to be treated like that and it’s only a matter of time before people fight back and try sneaky tricks to make more money to better their lives – I just think it leaves a bad taste in the mouths of travellers who go there and have a few bad days like myself.

Of course I could be wrong (it’s been known before) and I could visit Cuba and come back with stories of the nicest taxi drivers in the world or find more pros in a forced socialist/communist state. I guess time will tell.

What are your thoughts on Vietnam?

Anthony Middleton

Former loser who took a risk. Visited over 100 countries. Trying my best to not get skinny-fat during Covid.


  1. Tom @ Waegook Tom on December 5, 2012 at 3:59 pm

    Funny you write this, because everyone I know who has travelled in the region says EXACTLY the same thing – that the Vietnamese are more aggressive, and that transactions are done with a smile, until you decline, and then it’s swearing and ill feeling.

    I don’t blame the taxi driver for groping your penis, though. I’d have done the same.

    • Anthony on December 5, 2012 at 5:59 pm


      I don’t know that many people who have been so I was just going with the flow. It seems with the comments below (or above, wherever the fuck they go after I reply) that I was very unlucky as the taxi companies they are suggesting were the worse culprits haha!

      “I don’t blame the taxi driver for groping your penis, though. I’d have done the same.” – Promises, promises 😉

      • Sovann on January 18, 2013 at 7:36 am

        Youtube: Cyclo Scam in Ho Chi Minh turned out to be free riding! Thanks

        I had quite similar experience which I hope you’ll watch it. In my video you see how the cyclo driver look lik, how he behaved.

        We learn through sharing!

      • Darren on October 12, 2013 at 2:58 pm

        Hey Anthony,
        I’ve been to Vietnam 5 times now and I was lucky on the first visit to get a legitimate English speaking taxi driver.
        The second year I went he invited me into his home and his mother cooked for us.
        Over the years we have become very good friends. I take someone each time I go and have sent (on good recommendation) 3 separate couples and a family of 4 to be looked after by him. All came back with glowing references and some plan to return. My son who came on the second trip with me plans to take his girlfriend there soon.
        He is based in HCMC and his name is Anh. He has never been unfair with payment and the last trip this year in March, he welcomed my brother and I as old friends and refused to charge us anything. We are going again in January 2014 for the Tet Holiday celebrations and plan on taking him with us up to Hoi An for a few days for all he has done for us.
        Don’t get me wrong though..I totally agree with you on the vermin description, they are all around and scams are rife and the crooked cops do nothing about it except ask for money. Apart from wanting to commit murder in some situations, I am hooked on the place, – the food, coffee, places and beauty, but if it were not for my lucky encounter with Anh, I probably would have ended up with a filthy little flea ripping me off and turning me off the place for ever.
        Incidentally, if you or anyone planning on going for their first trip there or for those who want a second chance, Anh’s number in HCMC is: 9009434317, mention my name and you WILL get the royal treatment at incredible value. No fuss, honest service an assistance, you WILL save valuable holiday time and money. He has connections everywhere and will help see you through sa smooth holiday experience. I don’t get anything for mentioning him, but if you were to know him like we do you would understand why I feel that I owe him that.
        Darren. B.

        • Anthony Middleton on March 24, 2014 at 11:17 am

          Hi Darren,

          It’s amazing how people can have complete different perceptions on a country! Of course our experiences couldn’t be any more different.

          I’m glad you had a good time, but I defo won’t be going back in a hurry.

  2. Barbara on December 5, 2012 at 4:33 pm

    This is what happens when you come to town when I’m not here to look after you.

    Did anyone tell you to take Mai Linh or Vinasun taxis and no other type? And to sit in the back seat of the taxi?

    After reading this post, I feel terrible, like I’ve just witnesses someone in steel-capped boots kicking a defenceless puppy. 🙁

    • Anthony on December 5, 2012 at 5:52 pm


      It was Mail Linh where the 2 worse cases happened :s

      • Barbara on December 6, 2012 at 8:34 am

        I asked my husband to read this post. Who is, as you know, Vietnamese.

        He said he was confused by the headline. Because, he said, why would a guy complain about being sexually assaulted? But he assumed it was a woman who had manhandled you.

        So after reading your assailant was man, he got the giggles. When he calmed down he said: I don’t know of anyone who has gotten themselves into that terrible situation.

        Mate, I think it’s the mo. You are too sexual with it. For your own good, you have to be hairless or the rest of your life or these kinds of things will keep happening to you.

        • Anthony on December 10, 2012 at 9:45 am

          Hahaha good job it’s gone then if it was seducing weirdo’s like that bloke!!

  3. Dyanne@TravelnLass on December 5, 2012 at 5:10 pm

    Not to say it’s all daisies and puppy dog tails here by any stretch, but… one question.

    I’ve lived here more than a year now, and – I simply have to ask:

    Why on earth were you using taxis (rather than xe oms)???

    That and – most anyone who’s been here more than a week knows that the only taxi you can rely on to be honest (mostly) is the green and white Mai Linh line.

    But in any case, unless we’re talkin’ a typhoon, why not simply hop on a xe om (after negotiating the price – usually no more than 20-30k most anywhere in the city)?

    • Anthony on December 5, 2012 at 5:52 pm

      Hey Dyanne,

      Sorry to sound dumb, but what is an xe oms? I was encountering in a bit of speed tourism, which is admittedly not ideal and I took the taxis when I was short of time.

      It was Hanoi where this all happened.

      P.S. The cock-grabber AND the little slimeball was Mai Linh. 100%.

      • Dyanne@TravelnLass on December 6, 2012 at 1:45 am

        Sorry Anthony, as you eluded to being in Vietnam a month(?) I thought you’d heard of the term for “motorbike taxi” (i.e. xe om – I believe it actually translates to “bike hug” or some such as in you “hug” the driver, yes?) Leastwise xe om was the first Vietnamese word I ever learned.

        ANYWAY… Sorry, for some strange reason I was thinking this all happened to you in HCMC, but I see now that you’d already left Saigon for… parts unmentioned. Sorry. Hanoi could well be different, and of course even here in Saigon one must be on one’s toes (which of course is true when traveling amid any large city on the globe, no?) Still…

        You did seem to sum up your experience to include ALL Vietnamese taxi drivers, and that seems a bit of a stretch (i.e. most here have had little, if any such trouble with Mai Linh and Vinasun leastwise in HCMC – though I’m now permanently ensconced here in wondrously cooool, green, deliciously serene, Dalat).

        LOL, that said (and speaking of “despicable…vermin”) check out my most recent TravelnLass post – upon my return to HCMC after a month’s romp in Australia, I got totally ROBBED in HCMC by…

        (wait for it…)

        why a motorbike XE OM of course! 😉

        • Anthony on December 10, 2012 at 9:50 am

          Hey Dyanne,

          I was there for even less – 2 weeks. With regards to the motor bike – I’m living in Phnom Penh right now and a lot of people get mugged on them – they cut the straps and drive off in a 2-man operation.

          BASTARDSSSSS! Haha, send me the link! 🙂

      • Lissie on December 6, 2012 at 3:12 am

        Hmm – motobike taxis – as a solo traveller why would you take anything else – unless you were moving with a huge backpack? Must say I don’t do a lot of taxis – a find a central hotel and then walk – but I didn’t have any issues.

        And as a woman – how did the driver get that close to you? Particularly at the end when you are paying – I am always out of the cab and at arm’s length – basic security 101 world wide

        • Anthony on December 10, 2012 at 9:47 am

          School boy error – naively sat in the front, UK style :/ Lesson Learnt.

        • Anthony on December 10, 2012 at 9:51 am


          Like I said to Dyanne, I’m not sure moto taxi’s are flawless either. I guess I’m going to be a lot more paranoid when I hit the road next haha.

  4. Denise on December 5, 2012 at 9:34 pm

    mmm…I was in Vietnam for 2 months last Feb, and I caught Taxis constantly, though I made sure I ALWAYS used the green ones which you can find all over Vietnam. There were a couple of occasions where the taxi driver took me on a bit of a longer ride, but this only resulted in maybe a 50 cents increase in my fare.

  5. Andi on December 6, 2012 at 6:00 am

    Holy shit!!!!!!!! I’m so glad you defended yourself like that. What the hell is wrong with people? I hope nothing like that ever happens to you again!

    • Anthony on December 10, 2012 at 9:46 am

      Andi – I have no idea what made him do that, but I can’t help but feel it’d be worse if it was a girl in that position. I’ve learnt to sit in the back now! Still, wouldn’t stop them locking the doors though!

  6. Susan From Travel Universally on December 6, 2012 at 3:51 pm

    The Vietnamese culture and the cuisine is awesome, I have experienced it in my office trip. But the situation which you faced has made me more alert about staying in such place . Thanks for the info

    • Anthony on December 10, 2012 at 9:42 am

      No worries 🙂

  7. Edna on December 7, 2012 at 12:31 am

    I got totally scammed in Vietnam too, by a cyclo driver in Saigon for an embarassing amount of money I’d rather not disclose. Wasn’t my favorite memory, especially since it was my first time in Vietnam, but overall I had a good experience and will definitely be back. I think it’s the food that’s got me hooked — I’m willing to overlook it all for bowls of pho and bo bun!

    • Anthony on December 10, 2012 at 9:42 am

      Hey Edna,

      I can totally empathise (although I did have to check how to spell it bahaha) with the feeling of embarrassment here :/

      hahaha yes the food is rather impressive. But I can do without as I’m going back to yummy Thailand soon 😛

  8. Callie on December 7, 2012 at 12:58 pm

    Yikes. That sounds awful. I bet he probably won’t grope anyone else anytime soon though – hopefully he learned a lesson!

    • Anthony on December 10, 2012 at 9:40 am

      I hope so too!

  9. Rachel on December 8, 2012 at 5:01 am

    I’m sad to say I had a bad experience in Hanoi too. I found the aggressiveness of hawkers and just about everyone I encountered really hard to take, and like I was viewed as a walking ATM. Nothing quite like your experience, but someone did steal almost all of my electronics 🙁 Not really keen to return to Vietnam.

    • Anthony on December 10, 2012 at 9:38 am


      I’m sorry to hear you had a rough time, but at least I’m not the only one – people were starting to think I was going mental 😛

      How did they manage to get your tech gear? Poor lass 🙁 I’m in no rush to go back also!

  10. Michael Hodson on December 8, 2012 at 4:24 pm

    Vietnam can be a love it or hate it place… for sure. I didn’t have any real problems there, but they certainly can be aggressive. Now as to the aggressive that you dealt with — DAMN.

    • Anthony on December 10, 2012 at 9:36 am


      Yeah I heard that before I went, but I wasn’t quite expecting THAT haha

  11. Jade - on December 11, 2012 at 2:34 am

    Wow! what a reaction, and good for you! I had the same feelings about Vietnam… well… the scammy bit… not the groping bit.

  12. Noah on December 26, 2012 at 7:08 pm

    I didn’t have the same taxi experience, but I wrote at least five blog posts with the same theme. I hated the scams, but I loved the material. You’ll look back on this, after a few months of therapy, and sigh, “Oh Vietnam.”

  13. Vicky on December 27, 2012 at 1:56 pm

    Wow that is seriously absurd! We try to avoid cabs at all costs since it’s usually an unpleasant experience (had a few in China) and have only taken a couple cabs in Vietnam so far but they have all turned out alright. We are heading to HCM tonight and will be there until January 3rd – if you’re around would be nice to meet up!

  14. Marysia @ My Travel Affairs on December 28, 2012 at 8:28 pm

    You are not the first one who is writing about it, it a huge shame that people in such a beautiful country do not understand how to treat tourists!

  15. Ayngelina on January 3, 2013 at 5:17 pm

    Within the first hour of arriving in Saigon I was robbed. I had just taken the bus from Cambodia and still had my passport and everything on me. Two guys on a scooter drove up on the sidewalk and slashed my bag off with me with a knife.

    You would think I would hate Vietnam but it was the best thing that could have happened.

    No one on the street spoke English and they all looked at me in amazement. But then they flagged over more people who spoke English and these people drove me to the police station on their scooter, waited 3 hours while they convinced the police to take my police report. I wrote it in English and they translated it into Vietnamese.

    A stranger robbed me but other strangers showed such kindness. I will never forget the kindness.

    As for the robbing. It was in 2007 and I think it was a blessing because I realized that even if your passport is stolen it isn’t really that big a deal so when I took off for Latin America I was no longer afraid.

    The funny thing is I don’t really remember taking a cab in Vietnam. I think we either walked everywhere or somehow we lucked out because I don’t have any bad stories. I loved Vietnam and I’d definitely go back.

  16. Ian of Borderless Travels on January 4, 2013 at 3:39 pm

    Hilarious! Good call on ditching that gym sesh. In all the places I’ve visited the taxi scam is by far my most frustrating, and its even worse in a country like India where people speak English. Now I’ll be prepared for my future visit to Vietnam, although I’m hoping to ride a motorcycle 🙂

  17. MikeJJ on January 14, 2013 at 12:25 am

    Just browsing travel Blogs and clicked yours because of the title! Great title 😀

    Although Man VS Cock would have been more suitable for this story!

    Hope you have better luck next time!


  18. Wends of Journeys and Travels on January 17, 2013 at 8:26 am

    I had been to HCMC and was trying to be nice to a man who overcharged me for a motorcycle ride around the city but nothing comes closer to your experience on the “Love Muscle” haha I am picture out quite a headspin for the bastard for groping you in his cab. Darn, he cant get enough touching you on your biseps and gone all the way down there.

    Good decision to not stay at the gym and wander around instead. In a foreign land, that is what I feared the most.

  19. Sovann on January 18, 2013 at 7:32 am

    Youtube: Cyclo Scam in Ho Chi Minh turned out to be free riding! Thanks

    I had quite similar experience which I hope you’ll watch it. In my video you see how the cyclo driver look lik, how he behaved.

    We learn through sharing!

  20. Nico on January 19, 2013 at 9:38 am

    I’ve heard a lot of bad things about Vietnam, but never cock grabbing. Not the easiest country to be a tourist in South East Asia, but when I went there I had no problems at all (but then my dad speaks some Vietnamese, so it makes a difference)

  21. Aleah | on February 5, 2013 at 5:51 pm

    I love Vietnam. The first 3 times I went there, it was absolutely peachy. The 4th time, however (and it was just last December), I was cheated by a taxi driver and a moto driver told a German friend of mine (who was waiting for me on the sidewalk in front of my hostel) that I was actually a scammer and I had already murdered an Australian during one of my scams. Funny eh? Actually, NOT!

  22. Brandon Elijah Scott on February 17, 2013 at 4:32 pm

    Yikes mate

  23. Jonathan Look, Jr. on March 10, 2013 at 8:11 am

    I don’t know what it is but the taxi business seems to attract more of these kinds of characters. Going to Vietnam next month. I will definitely take this as a warning.

  24. Foof Song on April 11, 2013 at 4:49 pm

    Now that I am officially a “howay man….a little bit more travelled like” in the realms of SE Asia I can actually join in with this! Yay!

    I was in Saigon and was lucky enough to have a friend living there who told me VinaSun or MeihLin taxi’s only and we had no problems – actually if anything found the taxi guys we came across really helpful in comparison to some others we came across in Thailand. I didn’t feel the place was aggressive though I travelled with my boyfriend and was with him most of the time and no hassle (he isn’t Tunisian and so got a visa fine…..what a shame about your girlfriend 🙁 how ridiculous). When I was alone, I did get more hounded than elsewhere though, but mainly by women grabbing my arms as I walked past their stalls or shops which I find totally off-putting.

    That said, a couple in my hostel were done out of a load of cash on one of those “here, sit on the front of this bike and I will push you round town looking like a total tit for half an hour for £100” type trips. They experienced the old “taking a 500’000 note 20’000 note out of wallet” sketch and wouldn’t actually divulge how much they had their pants pulled down for, so it must have been bad.

    I personally wasn’t a fan of the cuisine there (though ate a lot of bread and pastry if that counts) and completely LOVED Khmer food which is interesting – but then I don’t think we ever have been that compatible with our scoff eh Anthea *bites into raw onion*

    I think someone grabbing your pork sword is equally as disgraceful as someone grabbing a foof – how disgusting to experience that, I bet you were fuming. Good on you for going mental at the man, bless you.

    This is a massive post…are you anxious!? haha
    peace out

    • Anthony on April 17, 2013 at 3:54 pm

      Hahaha it’s Foof On The Dancefloor!

      Get you – all like Brummie’s answer to Michael Palin. I think the fact you travelled as a couple meant you were less of a target. If your man went on his own I can guarantee they would have been the same, but I hope I’m wrong ad it was just a bad week :/

      hahaha yes the food thing doesn’t surprise me. With the exception on Bacon sarnie’s and Uncle Ben’s rice – we are world’s apart in that respect. Hahaha yes the long post has given me an asthma attack and I do not even have asthma. Interested to hear your opinion on other countries we have both seen 🙂

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  26. Milt on April 18, 2013 at 3:54 pm

    Brollocks! I’m literally just hovering my mouse over the buy button for a Bangkok to HCMC flight for my first time. Avoided Vietnam for a decade of bouncing round SE Asia because of these sorts of stories. Not heard any for a while thought I’d give it a go.
    But on the motorbike taxi thing – I now do it that I hate them all unless they prove me otherwise. Thailand, Laos, Malaysia the lot. Must admit, I’ve gone ape shit on a few of them overtime also. At the same time I do have quite a few taxi guys who thru using over time I have become really good friends with and they do things like give me free rides if they are passing me in the street.

  27. gwenda on May 25, 2013 at 6:33 am

    I agree with you. I experienced being forced to pay double of what the meter says. I don’t think I still want to travel back here… alone. I was really damn scared with how the taxi driver treated me. I thought the people here are nice until i met that taxi driver an hour ago.

    however, if you are to take a cab, please choose Mailinh or Venasun. It so happened that there was neither of them outside the market that’s why I took the taxi with the Cooperative name and it was the most horrible cab ride I ever experienced.

    • Anthony on June 15, 2013 at 4:14 pm

      Thanks for the tip, Gwenda. Not sure if I’ll ever be going back though! 😮

  28. andy D on April 5, 2014 at 8:15 pm

    stumbled across your blog today, so sorry to have heard all of bad experiences you have had in Vietnam, I am Vietnamese born Australian by the way, fluent in Viet, talk the talk and walk the walk and had been living/working in Vietnam for the past 8 yrs. still the local would try to take me for a ride on a daily basis, completely sick of it, enough for me to have finally decided to close down my business here last week, packing my shit up and head home in about 2 wks from now, … just you wait my friend, you will be shock to hear my own stories, can’t speak much now until I am totally out of this shit hole for good.
    take care now.

    • Anthony Middleton on April 10, 2014 at 6:20 am

      Hi Andy,

      Thanks for the back up! Sorry that you had to endure that – I can’t even begin to imagine dealing with that long term. At least I got out soon enough!

      Good luck with everything in the future and I hope you find a more friendly country 🙂

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  30. Nacho Juan Manzanero on September 27, 2014 at 6:59 am

    It's interesting that you attribute the dishonesty of Vietnamese taxi driver to, in part, Marxism. I lived in Cuba for four months and regrettably have to agree with you.
    Socialist systems basically force people to steal to survive… Think of it this way. In Cuba, a person will get $8 a month working in a government tourist restaurant where a single meal on the menu is $15. Even a doctor only gets $30 a month. On every construction site in Cuba, the workers ($10 a month) are stealing the equipment to sell on the black market… Because they have to. The wages are so low that they're essentially working for free—only working because if they refuse, they'll get arrrested. (By going to government employment agency, you can apply for a transfer to a new job—as long as you pay a hefty, hefty bribe to get a good one). Given people earn so little, they effectively have to steal from their jobs: no choice.
    Everyone does it, so it's just normal.
    If a society criminalises all private trade, yet pays nothing, then people ultimately have to steal to survive. While the government steals from everyone! So why wouldn't (a minority) cheat tourists? Everyone else does. The government does. The ultimate end of the Marxist experiment (workers paid nothing, yet trade is banned) is that people are forced to steal to survive… And it's sad.

  31. Nacho Juan Manzanero on September 27, 2014 at 7:05 am

    And you combine that with 50 years of fear; of neighbours spying on each other; of "fake" tourists that befriend you, then bait you to criticise Fidel (then you disappear). People can't trust each other. It's a society where stealing and lying have become so ingrained that it's just the way it is. I love Cuba, and I cannot wait to return (I have dear friends there), but what's happened in Cuba could fill entire oceans with tears.

  32. Anthony Middleton on December 12, 2014 at 5:59 am

    Sorry about my late reply, Nigel – I've just managed to catch up on my blog. Interesting that you mention Cuba as my next stop in mid-January is….Cuba!! I completely agree with you on your views on Socialism. It makes me laugh (and sometimes cringe with a face-palm) when idealists talk about eradicating capitalism for Socialism, or something of a similar ethos.

    Sure, capitalism isn't perfect and it's good to see people wake up and to start questioning their part in the cycle…someone else's cycle. But my experience of people who speak in favour of Socialism is that they have usually never visited a Socialist country.

    Maybe Cuba will change sooner rather than later? I'll welcome any tips you can give me for when I visit there. I certainly won't be returning to Vietscam!

  33. Guten haben on December 30, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    I admit that the Vietnamese are tougher than their neighboring Southeast Asian peoples. I’m Vietnamese but when I go travel to Thailand, Malaysia, Singapore I feel much more comfortable, people are genuine, welcoming and peaceful. Though sometimes I did encounter unfriendly locals but considering how nice the others were I still feel a big love for these countries. Returning to Vietnam I feel like going back to the prison.
    I think one of the reasons why there are many tourists still coming to Vietnam despite its bad reputation is the cheapness in prices in Vietnam. People can eat, smoke, drink, drug, prostitute as much as they want. Earning in US dollar and spending in VND, aren’t you living like a King in Vietnam ?

    • Anthony Middleton on February 6, 2015 at 9:41 pm

      At the time I was earning decent money, yes. But I was in Thailand too, and like you say – it’s a lot more friendly over there!

  34. Donna Wanderlust on February 7, 2015 at 4:05 am

    You poor dude, before i moved to Vietnam i heard similar stories whilst travelling around other parts of SEA, which really put me off coming here, but i now live in hanoi and have travelled all over Vietnam for 18 months now with nothing but a wonderful and helpful experiences to share.

  35. Grace Villarino on February 13, 2015 at 10:37 am

    hah! i found your blog when im searching for "wallet lost in ho chi min". i just lost my wallet today in the hostel. now im trying to make myself better by thinking the money goes to a whole family, about capitalism, underpaid employees, this whole inequality. in a way, this post made me feel better.

    • Anthony Middleton on March 18, 2015 at 12:46 am

      Quite the positive outlook! I hope it all works out for you, that sucks!

  36. JD Pham on April 27, 2015 at 5:28 pm

    Anthony, after reading your experience in Vietnam, I feel blessed that the buddy I was traveling with had a cousin in Saigon who was a taxi driver. He hung out with us the entire month we were there and we took care of him as if he was vacationing with us. He had a blast and we didn’t groped…yeah!!!

  37. David ( on July 28, 2015 at 7:43 am

    Hi Anthony, wow, yours was the first case (sexual assault) I have heard of while research and compiling a list on tourist targeted scams in Vietnam! And that list is huge.. And I agree, the number of scammers there, it’s gross

    • Anthony Middleton on July 28, 2015 at 11:24 pm

      Hi David, not sure if it was a scam – just an opportunistic grope. I need to learn to stop being so smiley haha. Yeah Vietnam is AWFUL for travel scams.

  38. Ian Martin on September 14, 2015 at 9:07 pm

    Everyday I drummed it into my Filipino girlfriend to only use vinasun or mahlin taxis in HCMC but she called the first one and I entered thinking she had called a correct one. A few hundred metres later the driver turned around to “adjust” the tilt of the seat, he touched my right hand. Later I discovered he took my wallet with his other hand. He stopped and shouted at us, the doors were locked and the meter was also sky high.
    I had no money now without the wallet. When it happens you wonder if it was YOUR Fault. Did I leave the wallet in last cafe? But of course his behaviour indicated that he had done a crime and wanted us out but also paying the scam meter charge.
    My gf paid from her holiday money. I was angry with her as I thought we were in a vinasun taxi. Lots of problems cancelling cards and the extra small items in the wallet.
    What could I have done? Stayed in taxi and shouted?

  39. Edgar Lefret on July 5, 2016 at 2:31 pm

    Where have you guys all been to in Vietnam? The only instance where I nearly lost something was at a hotel in Nha Trang I was checking out. My wallet fell off my pocket as I was sitting in a sofa. I left, and 5 minutes later, some hotel staff, looking exhausted, finally found me in order to give me my wallet back.

    I have to say, I travel modestly, maybe that's about our own attitude too?

  40. Grace Villarino on July 5, 2016 at 3:10 pm

    Edgar Lefret , ecohostel, a backpacker place at saigon, not even a "hotel" because it was the most descent looking, low price one we found online and oh can u pls elaborate how our attitudes makes our wallets gone? I find it too broad. By the way, i hide my wallet under the mattress

  41. Edgar Lefret on July 11, 2016 at 12:31 pm

    Grace Villarino Please don't take it personnally !

    But to take an extreme example, when I see in Paris these new-rich Chinese with their loads of fancy shopping bags and overpriced cameras around the neck of the whole family (all taking the same underskilled pics), I can't be surprised to see that they suffer the highest rate of pickpocketing in Paris.

    The fact is that when I travel to a poor country, I do not like to show off my wealth, not because I'm modest, phony or afraid, but just because I think it is vulgar, irrespectful and can only attract problems.

    And again, no intention to offend you personnally, just a simple remark that I had in mind because, on the very opposite to the terrible things I have read on this page, I was delighted and so blessed with the warm welcome I received in Vietnam during the 3 weeks I stayed there.

    By the way, I was a student on a budget at the time, so do not take it as a argument, it was a cheap hotel (just not flagged as backpack but more a Hotel for locals). And besides, have you even questioned the possibility that it could have been other guests at your backpacking place? The devil is not always where we think it is 😉

  42. ADT on September 23, 2016 at 6:15 am

    When I read your headline I was like “freak massage? Or maybe it’s his gf” and then had a fit when I read about how the two drivers grabbed your dongs…

    Pretty sure the assault was an isolated incident. Vietnam is one of those love-it-hate-it kinda country, to locals and foreigners alike. I was in the same situation as you were a few years back when I just returned after years abroad, and was not adjusting well. It’s certain hard to constantly be targeted for scams and tricks, even only for a few bucks at a time, but once you get used to it, and get over it, you get to the juicier part of Vietnam, which are the culture, the food, the life style, and generally people outside of the (tourist) service industry.

    It’s sad that you feel that bad about Vietnam. Hope you change your mind and give this weird country another chance in the future.

    From a local target practice for scammers.

  43. Hamish on September 30, 2018 at 1:35 am

    The taxi drivers also drive very dangerously in Vietnam (thought I would die there by being rear-ended by a truck in a cab). Know someone who was hit by a moped there while crossing the road. The shop staff in Hanoi airport are also bad, grabbing money out of the hands of people and counting it and giving it back to them. But the food can be excellent and the buildings are wonderful and have heard that Hoi An and the beaches in Vietnam are great. The people suffered a great deal in the Vietnam war as you will see if you visit war museums there or read about that war and some still suffer from it. Taxi drivers and shop staff are bad in many countries often, the trick is to find some regular, nice people.

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