People are generally kinder to one another at Christmas time in my country. We’re more patient with our loved ones. We agree to disagree, for the sake of less arguing. We smile at strangers. We take a genuine interest in one another’s lives. We laugh more. We hug often. We manifest an impenetrable bubble of positive energy, which no external force can pop.
And it all seems so natural. And so it should, after all – it’s Christmas, right?
We look forward to Christmas time for many reasons. A long holiday from work. More time with our loved ones. Gifts. ‘Uncle Buck’ on TV. This awesome song.
But I think the main reason, at the core – is the aforementioned good feelings that we’re going to constantly be around. The joy, the laughter, the connections, the gratitude and the kindness. Which sane individual wouldn’t want to be around such harmonious euphoria?
But to wait around 360ish days, just to be kinder? Waiting for a date on the calendar to be more human? That’s silly. I think I’d prefer it the other way around. Yeah. Let’s all be dicks to each other for about a week in December, but kinder to each other for the rest of the year!
Or, maybe try a little less extreme option.
We all have times in our lives when we lose ourselves a bit. We’re short and snappy with the ones we love. We take out our insecurities on others. We care less about the impact of our words on other people’s feelings. We don’t have time for the important people in our lives. We don’t listen to our partner when they’re trying to communicate. We talk mean about people who aren’t there to defend themselves. Would we do such things in late December? Oh, hell no! Because that’s just not ‘Christmassy!’
(Even though we admittedly have murderous thoughts over the person who who chooses to put the empty After Eight wrappers back in the box. You know you who you are).
Moral of the story:
You don’t have to wait a whole year to be kinder to people.
You don’t have to wait a whole year to be happy.
You don’t have to wait a whole year to make a loved one feel appreciated.
Don’t allow holiday hype to dictate your actions. Choose now. Christmas has passed for another year. That doesn’t give you an excuse to go back to being a dick.