The Only White Man in the Village Anthony Middleton June 6, 2012 Asia, Thailand 14 Comments A few months ago I suffered a travel bloggers conundrum; I had severe writers block and I really hadn’t been anywhere that exciting to write about. I don’t want to write the generic “top 10 things to do in Bangkok/Chiang Mai” type of posts on my blog. They do serve a purpose, but that’s just not my style and I don’t enjoy writing in that way. The problem was instantly solved when my Thai friend, Nok invited me to her village ‘Nakhon Sawan’ to watch her nephew become ordained as a monk for life. This was the perfect chance to see a proper Thai ceremony in action, what it’s all about and how they celebrate. And so I jumped at the chance and took the no air-conditioned, cramped six hour car journey south to Nakhon Sawan. It was little surprise to me to see how the Thai’s celebrated this holy tradition – with an abundance of alcohol and delicious food. Party number one starts the day before the ceremony and it’s more of a casual affair, with friends and family of the monk getting together for a bit of a knees up. The soon to be monk isn’t present at this one and is back at the temple before his big day. Nothing says “He’s a monk now” like bustin’ some moves in the street! I got to meet the monk in question early in the morning of the big day and as I watched him get his head shaved; I began to really consider the magnitude of this man’s commitment. This young man (21) is about to commit himself to his religion for a lifetime of selflessness. He will never get drunk with his friends; he won’t get to choose where he goes and what he does. He will never experience the unbridled joy of soft female flesh lying against his body. Men are scared of commitment? Try telling this guy that! The monk then has to wear a traditional head-scarf while circling the temple three times, before becoming fully ordained. The whole of the village is centred on the monk and they come out to dance to a mobile band and get merry, all following his three times circle of the temple. Once the monk is done, he throws money into the air which is tightly wrapped in a pretty decoration. It is said that if you catch one thrown by a monk that you will receive good luck. Well let’s hope so, because I caught one :). Too Much Attention for Me The evening party was a MASSIVE celebration consisting of more food and alcohol and even though the party was for a monk – the music concert was sexually charged. Scantily clad Thai lasses shook what their Mamma gave them and even made sex noises during songs. Not what I expected for a guy who has planned celibacy for life. But I guess it’s always good to throw a scary lady-boy in the mix, to balance things out… Feeling like a Girl I enjoyed the cultural experience and I feel really lucky that I was part of this, but there was one thing that I didn’t particularly enjoy – all of the attention that I received. I’m not the one to shirk away from attention and I’m a flower that blossoms when given such enthusiasm, but this was a day when I wasn’t particularly feeling too good. I had a lot of negative stuff on my mind and I didn’t fancy being the centre of attention and I also didn’t want to steal the monks thunder – it was his day after all. Can you find the odd one out? And so I had a premonition! For decades men have been scratching their head to why women doll themselves up to look all pretty and lovely, just so they can go to a bar and shoot down men who realise their effort. I feel like I could relate to women just for that day – the constant personal space invading, assumed touching and not been able to find a second to collect in my own thoughts, made me feel extremely claustrophobic and I was happy to get away the day after. Maybe if I was feeling good already, I would have felt differently. However it was overall a positive, cultural experience for me and something interesting to write about :). 14 Responses Will June 6, 2012 Can we become monks together? Reply Anthony June 30, 2012 Always! Reply Sarah June 7, 2012 No personal space? Stares at every street corner? Everybody wanting photos? People saying “foreigner!” at you, not realising that actually you can understand that they’re talking about you? If this sounds like fun, come to China! In all seriousness, it’s not all day every day but it can be a pain sometimes. I totally understand where you’re coming from when you say that some days, you just don’t want the attention! Mostly, though, it’s great and I’ve had many happy experiences. I think I just might wonder why more people don’t do it when I’m back in the UK, haha! Love the post – I really love being invited to things by friends that many people do not see – getting off the beaten track is great! Happy travels! Reply Anthony June 30, 2012 Hey Sarah, Hahaha I hear that in China you can’t go anywhere without the locals wanting a picture with you? Like I say, I’m not the one to usually shy away from such attention but I wasn’t in the greatest of moods. Hahaha yes you’ll be back in the UK wondering why people ignore you! LOVED getting off the beaten track and will be doing so again soon:) Thanks! Reply hayadeen June 7, 2012 This is interesting. I’ve seen so many young monks and I didn’t know they were celebrated like this.. and for the attention you get, I think the best thing to do is to stay humble, smile and be happy with it because I think it’s better than getting scammed on a foreign land..hehe by the way, that lady boy is indeed scary. I feel molested just by looking at him/her.. LOL Reply Anthony June 30, 2012 Hey Hayadeen, You are right – it’s better than being scammed – it was just a case of poor mindset I guess. And you are lucky I didn’t post the picture BIG of the lady boy – you would have had nightmares 😛 Reply apol June 8, 2012 nice post! must have been a great experience… apol recently posted..Photo Wednesday: Wat Yai Chai Mongkol Buddha Reply Anthony June 30, 2012 Thanks! Reply Sam June 10, 2012 Man, I totally know what you mean about the travel writers block conundrum. I’ve been really struggling to find experiences I feel like writing about lately. Been doing things but they’ve all left me feeling slightly disappointed, either uninspiring or just unauthentic. Watching a monk become ordained, and being invited by a local. Nice. Sam recently posted..Enjoying Various Beers Downtown Montreal at Mondial de la bière 2012 Reply Anthony June 30, 2012 Hey Sam, I’ve come to the conclusion that if you sit down to write and you don’t have fire in your fingertips – it’s best to just leave it until another day Reply Erica June 11, 2012 Sounds like a good time (minus all the personal space invasion).. maybe that lucky roll of coins will help you get out of your funk Reply Anthony June 30, 2012 Hey Erica, It was lovely aside from constant said dry-humping. I think them coins certainly did, darling Reply Geordiekev June 26, 2012 Keep on livin the dream…hope all is well…great article! Reply Anthony June 30, 2012 Cheers, Kev Reply Leave a Reply Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. 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